I was planning on have a trailing bouquet of peach lilies and orchids. The bridesmaids will have bouquets of peach lilies and the groom and groomsmen, orchid boutonnieres.
My Mother in Law is horrified that the groomsmen will have the same flower in their boutonnieres as the groom, he is supposed to have a more "special" boutonniere with a different type of flower.
Is this true? For simplicity, I would prefer all the boutonnieres to be the same, the groom's will be fancier, but all have the same flower.
I can find almost no info on "boutonniere etiquette", does anyone know how it is generally done? What did you do for yours?
Boutonnieres?
Since all of the groomsmen (and the groom) are traditionally wearing tuxes, the Groom's bout tends to be made of white roses/flowers with accents in the same colors as the other flowers. Otherwise, all of the guys will look the same in their matching penguin suits. :-D
I would suggest seeing if there are white orchids/similar flowers or going with an orchid with additional flowers so your groom's bout is noticeably different from the other guys.
Reply:He should have something that stands out but it could be the same flower... If his is more detailed the problem solved. Don't stress - It's your day not Hers....
Reply:What you are doing sounds like it would be fine. Flowers are really not meant to be that picky over, especially in planning a wedding. If you want to make his stand out a little more add some type of flower accent such as heather, baby's breath or ivy behind it to make it "fancier".
Please stick to what you want to do, along with consulting your fiance. It should be your decisions, and your future mother in law will have to accept what the TWO of you want.
Good luck and I hope this helps!
Reply:Yes, the groom's should be different. My husband's had three flowers, while the groomsmen's had one. In your case, perhaps the groom should have an orchid, and maybe stephanotis for the groomsmen. Talk to your florist.
Reply:My husband and the groomsmen all had the same flower... BUT my husbands had a little more to it, to make his stand out.
Reply:Give your hubby an orchid %26amp; the gm peach lilies. That will be fine, and cheaper too.
Reply:You are fine doing what you are doing. To make the grooms a tad bit different just add a little something to it or make it larger than the others. Both of my girls did just that. You are right to keep it simple and easy. Weddings can cause you to go crazy. Keep the flowers just as you have them.
Reply:No, thats not true at all. Lots of weddinsg they guys all wear the same flower, mine did, in fact I cant recall a wedding where the groom didnt wear the same boutineer as the groomsman (I also dont ever remember really caring about their flower, its the girls flowers people look at). Your MIL is koo-koo-bats. Just smile and then do what you were going to do anyway.
Reply:Your MIL is a freak.
You should tie everything together...why make things stand out (such as your groom's flowers)? Just give him a bigger/fancier one...the groomsmen will have smaller and simpler ones.
Tell your MIL to butt out...its your wedding....
(BTW, I had EVERYONE wearing the exact same boutonniere and carrying the same bouquet, except that my bouquet was larger, and my groom's boutonniere was more elaborate).
Reply:Technically he should have a different flower, but you are in luck. Orchids come in many different colors. Even peach. Speak to your local florist about this. They will help you with everything and help you make the right desison. You may want to put the groomsmen in peach lilys, small ones.
Reply:You are right. Traditionally the groomsmen wear the same type of flower and the groom's either has two flowers or it is fancier. Congrats.
Reply:Well...it's not like you're going to have the same flowers as your bridesmaids, right? Maybe the groom would actually like a different flower. Ask him and see if he has a preference.
If he wants the same one, or doesn't care either way, let your mother in law know that there are lots of different ways to pull of a beautiful wedding and that for your particular wedding, the men will all have the same flower, with different details for the groom.
Reply:they do not have to be different she just wants her son to stand out and she should know he will because he is the one getting married
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