Confused???

It is a long story, but basically I asked peopleon yahoo answers for an idea for a "grand gesture" for someone I recently met at college. I had one chosen and I almost fully arranged it, I bought movie tickets, ordered flowers and chocolate, everything. Then in french today I found out she already has a boyfriend!



It seems like they have been together a while, but she barely talks about him, I only found out today and I have been listening really hard for romantic ideas.



Basically I need to know what to do next? do I try and forget all about it, ask her out anyway (knowing the damage it could cause to us and them), stay close and wait incase they split up or what? I really need help.

Confused???
she has a boyfriend you should step back, dont try and make her leave if shes not happy in her relationship shell end it when shes ready. if your ment to be with her it will happen dont force it that will just hurt it!
Reply:If she goes on a date with you while she already has a boyfriend, you would have to ask yourself is she the person you really want.



Look around, live your own life, and then in time, if you hear she is single again and you are still interested, go for your romantic gesture, if you still feel that way inclined.
Reply:Ask her out anyways!!
Reply:hi i think its cheesy that she did not mention that she had a boy Friend in conversation . when i have a boyfriend i always mention it.I do this casually out of courtesy unless the conversation only revolves around business. I don't suggest you wait around . Keep shopping if she comes around she does . I hope you get a girl that mentions you often so you don't find your self in the other mans shoes! Well wishes romantic man seek on!
Reply:That's p***** on your parade.Give em to the college bike at least you'll get your leg over!
Reply:Forget about her and open your mind to others at college.

Meet people and have some fun and if you meet someone special than thats a bonus x x
Reply:MOVE ON SHE IS A PLAYER
Reply:Don't ask her out if she has already got a boyfriend that's just wrong. If they split up in the future then its cool to try it on with her. Leave her been my son and dabble the other talents that are on offer.



Or just get her drunk?
Reply:sometimes waiting is teh hardest thing to do just ask her how her relationship with him is cuz she dosent seem to talk about him that much and see what happens
Reply:forget it,, freeze the chocolates, take a friend to the movie, send the flowers to your mother
Reply:wait 4 a while,if they're still together i'm afraid u have to move on.but dont find another girl untill ur comletly over this one,so u wont hurt the other.

good luck
Reply:How would it cause any damage if you asked her out? If she's in a committed relationship with her boyfriend she'll say no. If she says yes, then you'll know she's not serious about her current boyfriend. Simple. Just ask her out for a casual date and see what happens. I think you're making too much of this. You're in college now and need to move beyond the high school theatrics.
Reply:Find another girl that you like and ask her out. Salvage it as best as you can.
Reply:If she has a boyfriend you need to move on.
Reply:Dilemma.. damned if you do damned if you dont.



Sometimes, we see what we want to see and dont hear the things we should hear.



Freinds is always best. Be here friend and see where that takes you.



Dont get your heart broke, when it does not need to be broken.



She has a boyfriend, its best not too mess around with someone who is already involved. If you like her, you will let her relationship be and not be selfish over what you want.



A good guy is the one who listens. You sound like a sweet guy who just got his signals mixed up. Put it down to experience.



Your mom or sister or aunt or grandma can do the chocolates and the flowers.. The movie tickets, exchange them for a boy movie and take a mate.



Hope this helps
Reply:forget about it.
Reply:Start "observer mode". After few weeks U will have some answers.
Reply:erm she lied to you and cheated on him - dont you think that says something about the type of person she is?/

forget her and find yourself a girl worth having. xx
Reply:You're obviously a sweet guy, going to all that trouble for this girl. Stay good friends with this girl and encourage her to talk about her relationship. If she's not talking about him much, there may be trouble in paradise, so given time it's likely they'll break up and your friendship could become something more.
Reply:There is no harm in telling her how you feel, however, I wouldn't persue her. Would you want another dude persuing her if she were your girlfriend? Once you tell her how you feel, it's kind of up to her whether or not there is a next step.
Reply:I would forget about her and get on with your life because you could be waiting forever for her to separate.
Reply:Cut your losses, take the chocolates home and eat them yourself and cheer yourself up by pretending she sent you the flowers. Confused? I'll bet.