My mom said she hates the flowers I sent her for mothers day. I am crying I feel horrible... what do i do?

I sent her this bouquet http://www.mcadamsfloral.com/default.asp... because they said it was on TV. I thought she would like it. I called her today and she kept saying how ugly it is, and how i got ripped off and she told me not to send flowers, and why did I send them? She's going to throw them away. This really hurt my feelings... I am crying very hard right now because I tried so hard to please my mother but nothings ever good enough for her.





Then she sd the girls at her work (who are very mean and rude) were making fun of her bouquet and saying "That's so small,, that's something you send to a kid's graduation." My feelings are so unbelievably hurt, to make things worse I paid $5.00 extra for a balloon and they never gave her it. I ordered off 1stinflowers.com not that website above, but when I went on 1stinflowers that bouquet was no longer available. What do I do? First of all, what do I do about the bouquet. Second of all, what do I do about my hurt feelings?

My mom said she hates the flowers I sent her for mothers day. I am crying I feel horrible... what do i do?
Ok...bouquet first: If you paid by credit card, contest the charge if the company will not stand by their poor quality.





Now...the tough one...MOM:





After forty years of trying to please an unpleasable father, I made a decision that probably saved our relationship...it certainly saved my sanity- Let it go....love your unreasonable mother in spite of herself and....let it go. When she complains about the flowers or whatever....stop her rant..."Mom...I love you anyway.....Happy Mother's Day".





Learning to love someone...warts and all is an acquired skill. When you master it, you will be liberated from the effects of her poor behavior forever.





Someone once told me, "Be a duck...let that water run right off your back". When MOM strikes....imagine yourself as that duck.





Good Luck!





PS. At age 65, my Dad was diagnosed with Fronto-temporal dementia. It is characterized by an increasing lack of compassion, good social skills, and empathy. It can start as early as your 40s. What we always thought of as nastiness was instead a progressive illness. I am not suggesting that your Mom has any such thing.....but I am suggesting that not everything you THINK you know about someone is always right.
Reply:Your mom doesnt deserve such a great daughter. Any mother would be pleased with your effort. Even a card and a phone call should be enough. Sorry to say this but I think I would tell her that you are not going to bother sending her anything any more as she just doesnt appreciate it.
Reply:its ok sweety,


this isn't your fault at all.


you didn't do anything wrong here, and thats something you need to understand first. your mother was being very rude, you were only trying to make her happy. i'm really sorry this happened to you. she really needs to be more appreciative.
Reply:wow. your mom...


she should love that you actually got her something for mothers day. ive been through this before too.


but i get over it quickly and move on. i dont let this stick with me for the rest of my life. and talk with her, settle things. tell her how you feel, and see what she says.
Reply:You need to call the flower shop that delivered them and complain to the manager. It sounds like you got screwed over big time by the flower shop. I have had this happen a couple times with arrangements I have ordered for funerals.
Reply:You did nothing wrong. I don't care how damn ugly the flowers were that u sent her, it is the thought that counts. If you're mom can't appreciate it then so be it. She's in the fault not you. So cheer up and don't let her ruin ur day.
Reply:You did nothing wrong, swetie. Your mom is rude and incredibly mean. Next year, ignore her. You don't need the heartache. Just ignore her, don't send her anything, don't call. Just have a great day your own self.
Reply:Maybe your mom is secretly a man, who is confused about how to feel when she receives flowers, you know? maybe she forgot that she was a female, and that most females like pretty looking flowers.
Reply:I don't think you did anything wong...you were ver thoughtful and loving and u did everything a mother would usually wish for on mother's day. Tell her how hurt u are, and try talking to her a little bit.
Reply:You didn't do anything wrong.


She's the one that's doing something wrong.


Please try not to let her upset you, she is only trying to be difficult and you sent her a very nice present for Mother's Day.
Reply:she sound like one of those ppl that just look for the negatives. They dont wanna be happy, they rather be said. Her "drama" of this may also make her more popular.





You need to get over it, what else can you do?
Reply:you didnt do anything wrong sweetie, you did your best =] dont worry about it, if your mum is like that, she will always be like that, you will just have to put on a brave face. =]
Reply:Sounds like your mom has some emotional problems. I can assure you that you didn't do anything wrong. You actually sound very generous and thoughtful.
Reply:Awww, that's awful.


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I wish I could offer you some kind of advice but I really don't know what to say. I hope things get better between you and your mom. %26lt;3
Reply:wow, what a nice mom. don't cry cuz its not worth it, just dont give a **** about it, act like you dont even care. someday, she'll regret it, and she'll know how mean she was to you.
Reply:I think your mom is beaning realy mean. I would tell her mother's day is not adout gives it is about love for your mom. I would also say you put love into your gifed.
Reply:well than she doesnt have feelings for you and even if they arent nice she should keep tha for her self cause those flowers were beautiful and i think wat she did was wrong and tell her next time u wont get her a gift for mothers day
Reply:You did nothing wrong the flowers are very nice.


You had the money and wanted to do something nice for Mother's Day.
Reply:this is simple NEVER GET HER ANYTHING AGAIN EVER!
Reply:I think they're beautiful. Don't worry, she's just being mean. If I got those for mother's day, I'd be very happy.
Reply:OMG! What a bioooootch! I'm so sorry to hear that. Next time don't get her anything at all, she is very ungrateful!
Reply:you didnt do anythng wrong your moms just a bitchhh
Reply:what a *********
Reply:what you did wrong was you cared and rememberd her on mothers day. if my mom ever ever did that to me (which she wouldnt) i wouldnt call or anything let it go and dont sweat it. but still thats sooo mean and rude. tell her to send you your money back she doesnt deserve it. and wow im in shock cause thats just mean. i wouldnt talk to her for a while dont even call her tomorrow. and sure in the hell dont waste your money on an inconsiderate b itch my mom asks for a rose bush every year and is content with that. i got her a digital camera and she loved it and even if she hated it she wouldnt dare tell me.
Reply:Your mom is a *****.


Don't worry you did nothing wrong.


Many many mothers would be very happy to recieve your gift, don't feel bad for your mothers selfishness. You are very kind, don't forget that. I think that you should not try so hard in your and hers relationship, she doesnt deserve it.


Your mom needs to stop being so immature, rude and selfish, and don't be afraid to call her and tell her that.
Reply:You didn't do anything wrong. She is just someone who can't be pleased. There are a lot of them in the world. If you didn't send her flowers she would have been mad too.





You know that next time it will be the same, so, what can you do? Ask her what she wants and put the problem in her lap.





You don't have to nurse hurt feelings. Toughen up. Treat yourself to something nice and the sooner you forget it the better. Being an adult means you don't let people get to you.
Reply:You did nothing wrong, your Mom did not either. She just misses you and is acting out her feelings. At least I hope it is something like that. Send her a nice framed black and white photo of you, at least 5X7. Even better if it includes her and your siblings. I promise you she will love it.
Reply:There must be something more behind this. Only a monster mother would react that way. If there isn't some reason behind this, then I would advise you to stop fighting for your mother's love. As horrible as this may sound, she thinks she can do and say what she wants with you, you will always come crawling back.


Wipe your tears, hon, take a deep breath, and be proud. You are a good daughter, and no one can take that away from you. Respect yourself, and hopefully your mother won't ever treat you that way again.
Reply:I cant belive your mom is like that! i would be so happy if i got it. Just tell her how you feel she is not a good mother just ignore her if you need to some parents are like that they hate everybody then





oh yah if she like nothing than she is a stupid retard!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Don't take your mother's problems on yourself. It will only bring you down. You have a good heart and a wonderful spirit. Your mother seems very bitter. Be glad you are not like her and strive to keep what you have in yourself. You are not going to change her, make her happy or make her love you if she choses not to. Put all that energy into something that 'will' make 'you' feel good. The flowers were a gift of love and respect. God sees them as beautiful! He loves them because He created them as He did you and me. Put all your love and hurt to him and He will receive them and multiply all the good and take away all the bad. He will never put you down,hurt you or ever leave you as long as you live. Give Him a call! It won't cost you anything, but a moment of your time. He will make you feel better!
Reply:your mom shouldn't have said she hated it, thas was mean and rude of her, tell her well, if she's gonna be mean, then she is not getting a mothers day present, u didn't know she wouldn't like it and it's the thought that counts, so tell her she could appreciate the thought!!!


i would leave her alone is she's like that. Don't try then, its HER fault not her's don't let her hurt your feelings cause she is making a IDIOT AND FOOL of herself!


stand up for your self!


im sorry she is that way.