How do you cure pre wedding jitters?

I'm getting married 3 weeks today, and I am a woman on the edge.





I know that I want to marry my partner that bit of it doesn't scare me, but I'm terrified that something will go wrong, I'm having nightmares that the cake won't arrive, or my dress will get torn, or that I've forgotten to order the flowers (i know i haven't)





Id there anything anyone can suggest - other than getting drunk!

How do you cure pre wedding jitters?
Ask anybody that's been in the wedding business for any amount of time,(photographer, planner, etc.) and they will tell you it's inevitable something's not going to be quite right. A car that won't start, a cake that didn't show, a torn dress, a photographer whose camera fails him, whatever. I went to a wedding once where the planner was fit to be tied upset because the cars that showed up for the bride and groom were mere Bentley's instead of Rolls Royces. I went to another one as a guest, and took pictures for my own use, only to find out later that the photographer's equipment, and all of his film was stolen during the reception, and my pictures became the defacto "official" pictures of the wedding.


Don't sweat the small stuff. With all the details surrounding a nice wedding some glitch is probable at least! Focus on the love you feel for your soon to be mate. Focus on how happy you'll be together. Focus on your futures together. If the cake doesn't show up, go to 7-11 and buy a box of twinkies or two. If the dress gets torn, keep a sewing kit pinned inside the dress or in your purse. If the flowers don't show, carry a bible or other scripture down the isle, and tell everyone you're allergic, or someone else is.


These glitches, 10,20,30 years down the line are what makes the ceremony memorable. A perfect ceremony that's straight out of a can will be forgotten in a month.


When my wife and I got married 29+ years ago, her dress did get torn, and her veil wouldn't stay on right. Then we got lost on the way to our honeymoon destination. (A cabin in the woods). We had to flag down a cop, and ask directions. Still we couldn't find the place, and were about to give up and spend the night in the car, when we finally found it. We even had to cut the honeymoon short because my wife got sick!


These things don't amount to a hill of beans compared to all the love and togetherness the two of you will enjoy hopefully for the rest of your lives. If we had focused on the glitches that day we wouldn't have had almost 30 years and 5 kids together. (1 Adopted) And we wouldn't have 3 grandkids now. (the youngest one is only a week old, what a cutie!)


Focus on the things that truly matter you, him, togetherness. Ignore the glitches they just don't matter.
Reply:just accept things will happen and let others deal with them examples of my wedding





The car broke down that was going to pick up my wife to be!





The place settings were never put out for the meal





The cake didn't get cut and passed to our guests





The photographer lost 1 reel of film from the reception





but the wedding went well because i had fantastic Ushers who





Fixed the car and wouldn't let the driver shut off the engine upon pain of death,





They escorted each guest to their setting using photocopies of the table plan which has now been copied by 4 weddings since as everyone thought it was a real y nice thing to do





we took the cake round an old peoples home after and had an impromptu party with the old folk





I sued the photographer and got all the other pictures free and a canvas thrown in and then just asked all guests for their photos for the album





Make sure you have good back up who sort out any issues that arise and just keep smiling!





Good luck!





Married 9 years now
Reply:My daughter is getting married 3 weeks tomorrow and I am getting the jitters.


It will soon be here and gone so make up your mind to enjoy the big day. Think positive, all the best.
Reply:Buy a relaxation CD and listen to it twice a day until your wedding. You will definitely cope better with all the stress
Reply:RUN FOR THE HILLS
Reply:Just accept that something will go wrong. AND that your day will not be ruined. Laugh at what happens and stay focused on what is important and that is that you love your future groom. All the rest are material things that will only be there for that day. GOOD LUCK


PS. A Glass of wine wouldn't hurt either. lol
Reply:I'm getting married in four weeks and I haven't had any jitters yet... That's even though I've ordered my dress from someone on ebay and it hasn't even arrived lol. My advice would be to focus on why you're doing this; because you love your partner and you want to commit to him, right? (I do hope so!) Nothing else matters. Who cares about the flowers or a torn wedding dress if it's love. And if it's not, well, then you better had get drunk!
Reply:i was the same and on the day of the wedding i got my hair done and my make up done and i put on my dress and got ready. i stood at the door of the church and said f*** everyone it's our day and it worked. im now married 8 yrs and i am as happy now as the day i got married.
Reply:get layed!!!
Reply:Of course we all want our wedding day to be perfect, but I think of it this way about my own wedding, which is quite soon:





If at the end of the wedding day we are married, then nothing else matters and it will have been perfect regardless of things that don't go to plan.





Dresses and so on are the decorations we choose to ornament our day, but the marriage is the important bit and it lasts a lifetime not a day.





But just in case make sure you have wedding insurance of course!
Reply:Sarah, First of all Congratulations that makes two of us getting married but mine is in November %26amp; in Africa %26amp; the man pays for "Everything"%26amp; organises it all aswell,so you have the Butterflies me too Red Admirals %26amp; Cabbage Whites,there is nothing unusual to feel the way you do nine times out of ten all goes well mine won`t so you will have a fab day! Breathing is very important (deep),plus Vitamins, Marmite,etc not too much vitaminC though, Alcohol is not the answer %26amp; will increase the anxiety,take your time when doing anything don`t rush think things through a night out with the girls is fine maybe two days before the event as you want to be at your best on the day with no hangover! I wish you Both well for your future together, send a postcard,if you have time!Don`t Worry you`ll be fine.
Reply:Hey, every day all over the world people are getting married, in the grand scheme I am sure that most wedding go along perfectly. Mine was a wonderful day, I am sure there were hiccups along the way but as long as they are minor they go by unnoticed. Don't forget the main purpose of the day is to focus on the fact that you will be marrying the man of your dreams and that you will have a fantastic time.





All the worrying and pre wedding jitters are just your body's way of letting you know how excited you are about all of this! Try to take some time out from preparations and pamper yourself, maybe try a quiet romantic evening for you and your beloved, promise not to talk weddings, think beyond it, honeymoon etc.





Have a fantastic day and best wishes for a happy marriage.
Reply:No matter what happens it will still be your day. You will still be married at the end of the day and you will have a great time.





If something goes wrong it won't ruin your day it will just add a memory that you and your partner can laugh about later.





If the cake doesn't arrive or if the flowers are wrong you will still be a beautiful bride and the outcome will be the same.





Stop stressing about what might happen and enjoy these last few weeks until the wedding.
Reply:Look at the bright side, once you get paper on him, you can do what you want.
Reply:watch your favory show or soap opera on TV


Excersize. It's great for stress. Your dress will fit wonderfully afterwards.


get a massage and get tanned. It's very relaxing.


Buy gum and chew on it! It relieves stress.


Make a puzzle ..it relieves anxiety.





Good luck bride to be, think of your wonderful man waiting for you and a life time of hapiness with your loved one.





Goo dluck, Congratulations
Reply:Get married
Reply:You have some time. Just breathe. Call around now and find a spa that has openings the morning of your wedding. Get a massage and some pre-wedding pampering.





If it makes you feel better, call the people. Call the caterer and confirm one more time everything is set. Go to the florist and review the plans and delivery schedule one last time. Conference with your bridesmaid and mom that everything is set. Assign someone to each aspect of your big day. One to ensure the cake is there and set up properly. One to work with the florist to get everything in place. Even if they aren't your bridesmaids, some people you trust to do this stuff.





And finally start reminding yourself this one very important thing.





The wedding is the first day of the rest of your new life. And the first day is only ONE day. You're getting married honey! To a wonderful and loving man! And he is going to be right there at the end of that aisle waiting for you. He won't care if the flowers are off center or the cake is lopsided. He just wants you to stand beside him at that moment and for every moment thereafter. And you should want the same. The wedding will be beautiful no matter what happens.





It seems like a big deal and there has been so much building up to this one day. It will be perfect no matter what may go wrong. Because it will be the day you become someone's wife. And the day you walk away with a husband at your side. Congratulations!
Reply:i did the same thing. i have panic attacks so i took my medication, adivan. i regret taking it the day of because i felt no emotion so don't take anything the day of or you will regret it. try smoking a joint
Reply:trust me on this enjoy it cause if you dont you will regret it good luck
Reply:Hi honey im getting married next year and im having them now. Im also worried i will tear my dress and that something will go wrong, but i am also very excited and keep telling my self that everything will be fine. How i think of it is you and your partener getting married and no matter what this will happen. Even if the flowers dont turn up, who needs flowers there not important to get married with, even if you dress does get torn, will still get married, and even if the cake doesnt arrive, you can always get another on in a quick fix. The important thing is getting married all the little details matter but the marraige wont stop for them. So stop panicking and relax . It will be the best day of your life no matter what happens.


Getting drunk wont help the matters you have with getting marrid it will work for the time you are drunk but it will all come back to you when you are sober. The best thing is to get something to relax your nerves. I take a herbal suppliment called Passiflora which is brilliant, if you dont have a herbal shop near you that sells it you can buy it on line.. There are no side effects and work brilliantly i recommend them whenever you feel stressed out and anxious.





So get some Passiflora and relax and let the wedding come to you with no worrys.
Reply:Know that feeling well, and when u have an anxiety disorder it is 3x as bad!! trust me i've been there,





the way that i dealt with it was to make sure that you give the responsibility to someone else,for each thing, a bridesmaid, your mum, your dad, to make sure that all the arrangements are catered for! spend time pampering yourself, and doing the things that you want to do.





and believe me it will all come together, and be the best day of your life!





i thought i was going to be devasted when i turned up to the reception and all the helium balloons had gone flat, but because i was chilled and i'd given the responsibity to my dad, he handled it, he took them away before the guest arrived and no-one was none the wiser!





good luck, with your day it will be truely fine!


congratulations!!
Reply:Male stripper! Bring whipped cream!
Reply:Relax and enjoy this time! Don't worry if something goes wrong, usually something somehow will at most weddings and it's never a big deal, and often just adds more good memories or something to laugh about later. What is important is that you are getting married to the man you love and your lives will become one and take on a new meaning. Remember it's the ceremony and vows that are the marriage, not the wedding and reception.. those last for a day, and your marriage is forever. Say a prayer, then let all your worries go .. you've done all you can do, now enjoy it. Blessings!
Reply:grow up!!!enjoy life!!!!
Reply:just get drunk lol. im married and i remember feeling exactly the same as you, i cried, i laughed, i was happy, i was all over the placeso many mixed emotions, but when you get to the top of the isle and your looking stunning your man will look at you and all your worries will be gone. enjoy it, it will be perfect....congratulations xx
Reply:.ah poor you it is horrible when you want everything to be perfect, your not the first once the big day is here you will wonder what it was you where stressing about. good luck make the most of your day hen because it goes by so quickly
Reply:And that my dear is why I went to a Justice of the Peace to get married. :)





All brides wory about that stuff. It is perfectly normal. If you have any doubts, go over every last detail again. Make usre you talk to the caterers, the cake decorators, the DJ, everyone and make sure that everything is set. If you have your dress, inspect it over thoroughly and make sure there is nothing wrong with it, then put it into the garment bag and keep it in your closet. Then, a day or two before the wedding, pull it out, put it on, make sure it fits just right. Make sure you can walk in it and not trip (that would be my problem).





Other than that, don't worry. You will cause yourself to have an anxiety attack from it.





Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, and remember RELAX!!!!! Go to a spa one day. it will help.
Reply:Don't expect perfection. Leave a little room for mistakes. The most important part of the day is the actual wedding. Don't make my mistake though, I accidentally wore black thongs and you could see them. After the ceremony and before pics I ran to the bathroom and threw them away. Ooops. Don't worry and Congratulations.
Reply:Hi, I 'm getting married in 5 days and believe me you cant control the things that can happen. You just have to remember why u are getting married and how much you love ur partner and all those other details are secondary. What will be will be as far as u know u've done ur best and have made all the arrangements, all you have to do now is sit back and relax and try and enjoy the day. I've been having massages and just trying o take it easy. your marrying for Love and that all that matters. Good luck and congratulations
Reply:Do the opposite - think of everything that could go right. Hey, you're supposed to be enjoying yourself!